One short essay a week, about the things you've stopped doing.
Most of the women I work with are capable. They've run things, raised people, held jobs and held families together. And somewhere along the way their world got smaller than they meant it to.
Not because of one big thing. Because of lots of small ones. A meal out turned down. A room walked past. A photo they offered to take rather than be in.
Confidence Connection is where I write about that, one essay at a time, every Sunday evening.
Who am I?
I'm Kathryn Dunn. I'm a cognitive behavioural hypnotherapist in York, and I see clients in person and online.
I work with two kinds of women, and they turn out to be the same woman more often than you'd think.
Some come to me because of their body. Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), most often. They've had the tests. They know where every lavatory is on every route they take. And they've stopped saying yes to things because they can't be sure what the day will do.
Some come to me because of the room. They run a business, or have a job that needs them to be seen, and they're fine once somebody's talking to them. It's the walk in that undoes them. I know that room well. I built the free events calendar that York and North Yorkshire businesses use to find their networking, so I've watched a lot of people arrive.
Underneath both is the same thing. You've stopped trusting your body, or your nerve, and staying in has started to look like sense.
What I believe
Confidence is what happens when you stop caring what other people think.
It isn't something you're born with or without. It's a skill, and you can learn it.
Some people learn it early, because the people around them pushed them and cheered them on.
Some people never get the chance, because they were told to stay small. And they believed it.
It's not too late to learn it. That's what the essays are for.
What you'll get
One essay every Sunday evening. It starts in an ordinary moment, looks at what's going on underneath, and gives you one small thing to try that week.
When you sign up, you also get Twelve Minutes Before You Walk In, a free twelve minute recording to listen to before you go into anything hard.
If you ever want more than the essays, I'll tell you how to work with me. There's no pressure and no catch.
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One essay every Sunday evening.